We do reap what we sow. Sometimes the seeds come up quickly. Sometimes they are slower and we are blasted by the mistakes of our past at the worst times. As a teenager I was a fighter. I thought it was more important to be right than to give in. Because of that attitude, I often missed some things, like how I hurt others and myself.
I believe now that even if I am right about something, I can let it go. Kindness is the word that should drive my actions. I try to remember how I want to be treated and treat others that way. I try to forgive immediately, if someone offends me. I have learned how easy it is to offend others unintentionally. I put myself in the shoes of another who is facing struggles that I have not experienced. I know that life can really be hard sometimes and I chose now to lift instead of cut.
That does not mean that I will not stand against injustice or step in front when someone is hurting another. My response is different from when I was younger. Now I carefully use my words to help open the eyes of the blind to how they are hurting the other person. If they won't listen, I protect the weak and trust that those blinded by there own pride (as I can be sometimes) will wake up before that seed takes root and blooms with something they will not appreciate.
Some things are just out of my power to effect. What I do have is the ability to be kind. I can choose that path no matter what others are doing. I can listen, I can love, I can try to understand. I choose to plant kind seeds and I hope you choose that too.